The Harvard Study of Adult Development or better known as the Harvard Happy Study have found that our relationships and how happy we are in those relationships are what keep people happy throughout their lives. The study revealed that positive relationships outweigh money, fame, fitness, or even self care, all of the things most people THINK WILL make them happy. They found that happy relationships protect people from life’s discontents, help to delay mental and physical decline, and are better predictors of long and happy lives than social class, IQ, or even genes. – The Harvard Gazette
8 years ago, I put my relationships on the back burner and I mean EVERY relationship, my husband, my friends, my in-laws, my parents. Then Addison was born last year and I had an epiphany that life is ONLY ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS. NO ONE, literally NO ONE EVER said “I wished I would have worked more.” More often than not you hear, “I wish I would have spent more time with family and friends.”
I’m happy to say that over the past year, I have spent more time on my relationships with family and friends and I’m the happiest I’ve ever been.
It was a blast spending time with friends this weekend to celebrate the one and only – Amanda Christ. You’ve always been there for me through the good, bad, and ugly – even the years when I was MIA. Thanks for sticking it out all these years, cheers to 25 years of friendship 🙂
DO YOU HAVE REGRETS?
As of this past Sunday, 2/16, it will be 5 years since my grandma passed.
I’ll never forget the events of the weekend leading up to getting the news on Monday, 2/16. It was Valentine’s Day weekend and Adam and I were living in New Mexico at the time. We decided to get out of town and spend the weekend in Albuquerque since I had been working a lot and we wanted to celebrate Valentine’s Day. I always called my grandma when driving back and forth from Albuquerque, so I had every intention of calling her on our way. Unfortunately, Adam and I were not getting along on the way there and back, so I never ended up calling her.
For a long time, I was regretful that I never made that call and even more so that I didn’t make more calls. My grandma and grandpa meant the world to me, so why didn’t I treat them like it? It was difficult to admit that I put work above my friends and family in order to “succeed.” They say if you want to identify your values, look to see where you’re spending your time. I was “saying” family was first, but my time was saying, nope – it’s work my friend.
Thankfully, when I moved back from New Mexico a month after she passed. I spent most days with my grandpa and I enjoyed every second of it. Time is not infinite and once you’ve spent it you can’t get it back.
Where are you spending your time?
If you were to continue spending your time the way you are today, would you have regrets?
If the answer is yes, then it’s time to make a change and there is no time like the present. You have the power to take back control of your time, make the decision today, so you don’t have regrets tomorrow.
If you’re ready to take the next step and commit to taking back control of your time, raise your virtual hand below!
You’ve got this,